Can't help a child fall
Release time : 06/14/2025 09:30:01
There is a category of children, who are "nice and warm" in front of their mothers, and "naughty and mischievous" in front of their mothers. The child who has both skills is usually called a "bear child".
Children, especially those who are often full of energy and lively, are prone to falling easily when they go out for a picnic in spring. In response to this, many mothers instinctively rush forward to help them up.
Should we really help a child who has fallen? What different mothers' actions reflect about their educational philosophies? Let us delve into it together with MomNet.
When a child falls, should you pick them up? The instinctive reaction of the mother to immediately pick up the child after they fall and comfort them is natural and humane. However, this approach may not be appropriate.
Immediately lifting a fallen baby can also be inappropriate, as it can disrupt the details. When a child falls, it can vary from minor to serious. If the mother doesn't observe first before lifting, she might miss the true situation of the child's fall. If the child sustains injuries without knowing it, the mother will not be able to accurately describe the child's condition during the medical examination, resulting in additional expenses for medical tests.
2. Injuries caused by secondary impacts, such as fractures or other injuries in children who fall, may be exacerbated if mothers lift them without proper caution.
The correct way is to observe for 20 seconds first to check the child's fallen part to see if there are fractures, bleeding, etc. If there are no problems, pick it up.
The mother will also closely observe the child's condition within three days after the child falls.
3. Delayed illness After the child falls, if the mother immediately picks it up to stop crying, but ignores the abnormal condition of the child's body, once the child develops combined symptoms such as loss of appetite, drowsiness, crying, blurred vision, and poor breathing in the future, medical treatment at this time has delayed the illness.
The correct way is to call 120 as soon as you find an abnormality. Do not move the child during this period. If the child bleeds severely, use gauze or clothes to press the child's wound immediately.
Mistakes after a child falls. When mothers see a child falling, they must not only learn to deal with it, but also pay attention to their own words and deeds.
The first sentence a mother says when she's anxious can not only reflect her parenting attitude, but it may also be remembered by the child for a lifetime and influence their future life.
Usually, Chinese moms will say two things in a rush: 1. "Baby, are you hurt? Don't cry, don't cry, I'm just hitting it." 2. "Don't run around, you saw how it hurt, right? You were naughty." Analysis: The first type of mother's statement is unacceptable: When children accidentally fall down, most of the responsibility lies with themselves.
If the mother directly shifts the responsibility to the ground that tripped her, this may unintentionally teach the child to shift the responsibility.
While many mothers do it out of concern for their children, it's important to not overprotect them and allow them to learn responsibility.
As the saying goes, "every fall teaches you one thing," and falling is not necessarily a bad thing; what matters most is teaching our children how to face it correctly.
The second kind of mother's criticism is unnecessary: Criticizing a child for falling down won't solve any problems; it only makes the child resentful and creates negative emotions, making the child even less inclined to listen to their mother.
Moreover, when children are criticized, they don't know what they did wrong. How can we avoid this?
Moms should replace criticism with guidance, letting the child learn from their mistakes.
If a child keeps crying, wait until their emotions calm down before addressing the issue. This approach tends to be more effective.
The correct approach to children falling down. The way mothers handle this in different countries varies, so moms can learn from each other and help their children grow through setbacks.
If mothers confirm that their child has not sustained any serious injuries after falling, the following practices from various countries could be considered: 1. In the US, mothers stand by and encourage the child to bravely get back up.
Intent: Since the child accidentally fell, it is important to take responsibility for one's actions and learn to stand up after a fall.
Mom can use encouragement to give children courage, letting them transform sadness into strength and bravely get up.
Doing so can not only help children learn to take responsibility but also cultivate their positive, strong, and courageous personality.
2. Russian Mother: Ignore your child's crying and let them solve their problems on their own.
Purpose: When faced with difficulties, having children face them alone and figure out their own solutions is a good way to educate them.
And so, the child never thinks of relying on others; instead, he or she wipes away tears and stands up.
Children can also encounter difficulties in middle school, and rely on themselves to solve these problems.
In reality, natural education is the best kind.
3. African Mother: Pretends to fall and then performs the action of getting back up, indicating that the child can learn by observing her actions.
Intent: When a child falls, they might not have the experience initially. Mothers can guide children by demonstrating how to respond. This way, when faced with difficulties in the future, children will think of learning from others and finding solutions.
How to Prevent Children from Falling? Children, especially those between 0 and 6 years old, have a relatively weak balance ability and are very active.
To avoid serious consequences due to falls, how should babies of different age groups be prevented? Moms, quickly get these practical tips.
Characteristics of a 0-12-month-old baby: The baby can roll over, touch objects, crawl, start to walk, and has limited movement range.
Preventive Measures:1. Always be with the baby at all times, and try not to let the baby leave your sight for even a few minutes, especially when the baby is in bed, on a sofa, or on a chair; one slight turn can cause the baby to roll down and hurt itself.
2. Choose a safe bed for your baby and make sure the bed rail is high enough, with small gaps between the dividers to prevent the baby from falling out or climbing out of the bed.
3. When taking your baby out, it's essential that the stroller has a safety harness and is always fastened properly to prevent your baby from falling off the stroller while they are running around.
4. During the toddler period, let the baby step forward first.
After learning, hold the baby with both hands and let the baby walk slowly.
After walking steadily, protect the baby behind him, or wrap the belt around the baby's armpits and hold the belt.
1-3 Characteristics of a year-old baby: He can walk but is unstable, easily wrestling, likes to run around, and often plays with friends.
Prevention Measures: 1. When purchasing shoes for babies, opt for ones with a flat sole and a sturdy back heel to ensure they provide stability to the feet and prevent slipping during walking. This way, babies can walk more steadily and less frequently fall down.
2. If there is a staircase in the home, it should be installed with a barrier at the stair entrance to prevent your baby from climbing up or down alone, as they may fall and hurt their head or limbs.
3. It is necessary to install a baby-specific seat in the home, with the height not being too high and preferably equipped with safety belts. This will allow the baby to sit comfortably while eating, preventing them from falling out.
4. When bathing a baby, do not leave the baby alone in the bathtub. This is because babies are likely to climb out and fall, which could result in injury.
3-6 Characteristics of a year-old baby: likes to collide, occasionally fights, loves to play Peter Pan games, and can't fully understand what my mother said.
Precautions: 1. Don't put hard and large objects in the middle of the living room, so as to prevent the baby from bumping into it while running around, falling directly to the ground, crying and making a fuss.
2. The balcony guardrails at home should be set high. Don't put ladders in places where the baby can easily touch them. Otherwise, the baby will be fond of climbing the ladder and will fall off if he can't step on it steadily.
3. Try not to let Dabao take care of Xiaobao, because if Dabao is lazy, the baby can easily fall off by climbing the tables and chairs at will.
4. Babies like to play Peter Pan games. They stand on the stool and jump off. Mom should educate them properly, otherwise an accident will occur and they will regret it.
5. If you take your baby out on the swing, try not to push too hard to avoid the swing being too large and the baby will be thrown off. Also, try not to let your baby play on the swing by himself.
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